“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
Friedrich Nietzsche
Now this is a lesson I have learnt over time and often times the hard way. I'm not sure if it is so for everybody, but I often think if I think it or know it then it must be so. There are lots of things I don't know and I recognise that; but when I think I know something I am pretty darn sure I know it for a fact. But of course, I only know it for me.
The correct and only way certainly does not exist. Barry and I often laugh that if two people couple ever choose different ways of doing something it is us. We have to stop and discuss how we are going to move a piece of furniture before we do it; because we have learned that I will pick up my end and head off over there; whilst he will pick up his end and head in the other direction. Both choices make perfect sense for us as individuals and both would work; but we nearly always approach things differently.
I have found it to be true in art as well - where I might ponder and jot notes to self and go back and forth before beginning; Barry will often sketch an idea, fully formed and thought thru and then just go make it. I am more iterative; discovering along the way the things I hadn't thought about and now have to resolve!
One of the things that scares me most in people is when they think they are holders of The Truth. The only truth. The only way.
I think there are lots of ways of being in the world, lots of ways of doing things and that diversity is a fine thing and we should celebrate it!
So many ways...
Friedrich Nietzsche
Now this is a lesson I have learnt over time and often times the hard way. I'm not sure if it is so for everybody, but I often think if I think it or know it then it must be so. There are lots of things I don't know and I recognise that; but when I think I know something I am pretty darn sure I know it for a fact. But of course, I only know it for me.
The correct and only way certainly does not exist. Barry and I often laugh that if two people couple ever choose different ways of doing something it is us. We have to stop and discuss how we are going to move a piece of furniture before we do it; because we have learned that I will pick up my end and head off over there; whilst he will pick up his end and head in the other direction. Both choices make perfect sense for us as individuals and both would work; but we nearly always approach things differently.
I have found it to be true in art as well - where I might ponder and jot notes to self and go back and forth before beginning; Barry will often sketch an idea, fully formed and thought thru and then just go make it. I am more iterative; discovering along the way the things I hadn't thought about and now have to resolve!
One of the things that scares me most in people is when they think they are holders of The Truth. The only truth. The only way.
I think there are lots of ways of being in the world, lots of ways of doing things and that diversity is a fine thing and we should celebrate it!
So many ways...
This is why I love to teach, I find so many ways of doing things that I would never have thought of.
ReplyDeleteSo true Trace, I learn so much when I teach, and I realise I need to explain and explore things...
DeleteLove that story of you and Barry moving furniture... good chuckle there! And, Trace, I so agree!!
ReplyDeleteValerianna, it took us a while to realise we approached nearly everything from opposite directions, now we take turns saying why we would do it our way, then agree the best one!
DeleteGrinning at the picture in my mind of the two of you tugging furniture in opposite directions :-)
ReplyDeleteSo many times Robyn! We now have the system worked out, but honestly, we start from different places on so many things, it's become a it of a joke around here.
Deleteagree with trace! it's very good for me.
ReplyDeleteMe too Velma, I learn heaps when I teach - both in the preparation and in the classroom.
Deletegood post Fiona! have learned to state the bleeding obvious whenever Old Man Crow & I have to move anything too !
ReplyDeleteGlad to know we're not alone! It has become running joke in our household now which is good. Never assume anything....
DeleteThat quote is in itself wholly true. Hope you two are having fun.
ReplyDeleteWe are Jo and I love the quote for it's truth too, says it all with a big thumbs up for diversity and difference.
DeleteEven though there definitely isn't only one way and a single 'Correct Truth' is impossible to find - that quote IS so true - maybe it's difference that is the true path - never considered things in that way before. Your quotes always set me thinking ...
ReplyDeleteThanks for taking the time to ponder along with me Charlton, I like how some folk can say something so well that then makes me think! Go well.
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