"Only two words lead to success. Yes and no. You've mastered saying yes. So start practicing saying no"
Jack Canfield
A funny little one to choose, but I was speaking of this with a friend the other day so when it popped up I guessed it was meant to be pondered.
Apparently Mr Canfield is an author /motivational speaker which is why, I imagine, he chose the word success. I had thought to myself it always depends upon how you define success - and in my case if success is defined as living a clam, steady, kind life, then I'll take it. If it means climbing over the top of somebody and self-promoting along the way, not so much.
But back to me and my friend. We were chatting about how it can be hard to say no to requests, for our time, for our skills, for our knowledge. I think as I grow older I realise the value of weighing up how much saying yes can impact on my capacity to do the things I want to do and to live in the way I wish to.
My willingness to say yes is fuelled by enthusiasm, curiosity, a commitment to help, a sense of duty or responsibility and a bunch of other things; but it truly doesn't work in my favour if I find myself stretched, strained, tired and tight having run out of time to do things that need doing; or finding no time whatsoever for the things that nurture me.
I guess I found a grain of truth in what he says, even tho we work with it in different contexts...
a lot of truth in this ... although I would change the word "success" to contentment or happiness
ReplyDeleteYes Liz - funny how that was the word that stuck for me as well. If I can redefine it to contentment, happiness or whatever then it definitely holds true for me. Go well.
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